HOW TO DEAL WITH SELF DOUBT
For many creatives, self-doubt is something we all have to deal with. For some, it’s worse than others. I personally have had many moments (too many to count) wondering if I am good enough and should I have started this creative agency. But you know what? I keep persevering. I keep hustling. I keep trying. It’s so important to not give a fuck and let self-doubt derail you from what you want to accomplish. Especially when we know self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will! So read on to find out my tips on how to deal with self-doubt.
DON’T SLIP INTO COMPARISON MODE
Don’t look at what other creatives are doing and wonder why you’re not doing those things too because this is when self-doubt rears its ugly head. The problem is, slipping into comparison mode is easy – it’s like a drug and much harder to stop or walk away from. And we always end up feeling worse not better. So to help you out I am going to give you a fresh perspective – think of the time you spend comparing yourself to others. Are you spending 10, 15, 30 minutes, or longer? Now think of what you could have accomplished in that time if you were working on your own blog, music, art and doing something you love. And there you have it, the moment you start feeling like you’re slipping into comparison mode, you need to stop, refocus and concentrate on what you’re doing because it’s what you love doing and when you do what you love, the magic happens.
TAKE A BREAK
When I start to feel overwhelmed and uninspired, this is when self-doubt slips in. I get distracted and before I know I’ve wasted 15 minutes of critical time I could have spent working and coming up with fresh, new ideas to conquer the world. When this starts to happen I know it’s time for me to take a break. I’ll usually get out of my studio and head down to the beach for a walk. Or I’ll grab a juice from my favourite café down the road. It works wonders for recharging creativity.
READ OR LISTEN TO A PODCAST
When I am suffering from self-doubt there are two things I can always do to reinspire, refresh and reinvigorate how I am feeling. The first is to read a magazine called The Collective; it’s a melting pot of entrepreneurial start-up advice, interviews and information. The second is to listen to the Being Bosspodcast. I have been talking about this podcast for as long as I can remember!
HIRE A DESK AT A CO-WORKING SPACE
As a creative I work on my own from a studio at home and subsequently, I don’t have a lot of interaction with likeminded people throughout the day. It’s probably the one thing I really miss about working in an office. And unfortunately, being alone all day often allows self-doubt to creep in. Lucky for me, there are a couple of co-working spaces on the Sunshine Coast where I regularly hire a desk. I always meet new people who are on the same journey as me and it’s so nice to be able to talk about the same struggles. Plus I’ve even got a few clients out of it so I highly recommend hiring a desk at a co-working space at least once a week or fortnight to get your creative juices flowing.
Taking yourself away from what you’re doing and getting outdoors does wonders to kick self-doubt to the curb. I highly recommend going hiking, it’s my ‘go to’ for when I need to refresh and restart my creative engines. For those of you who don’t like hiking, which I know there are probably a few of you, my advice would be to grab some wine or beer, head down to the beach or your favourite park and watch the sunset with friends.
THE LIFE CHANGING MAGIC OF NOT GIVING A FUCK
In an affectionate parody of Marie Kondo’s decluttering tough love, editor and now author Sarah Knight recently quit her job and wrote a tongue-in-cheek book The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck, telling the world to literally stop giving a fuck. Instead of doing more, we need to do less to achieve our goals. I couldn’t agree more. So the next time you feel like you start to doubt yourself, stop giving a fuck and go have some fun!
Words by YCS Director, Jaharn Giles