HOW TO BLEND MUM LIFE WITH CREATIVE LIFE
As a few of you may know, I gave birth to our boy back in August; his name is Dusty Roam Quinn and Jason and I are besotted with him.
It’s been a fun and wild ride so far with little to no sleep in the first few weeks, getting mastitis in three different spots at once and spending four days in hospital with a dangerously high fever, navigating our new family routine (we’re getting sleep now hurrah!) and starting a new podcast. And that’s all in the last 10 weeks!
What this time has showed me is I can better blend mum life with creative life. Read on to find out my top five tips for other creative mums out there:
DON’T TRY TO DO EVERYTHING
I am used to doing everything in my business, so naturally that’s how I felt when we had Dusty. I couldn’t help myself because it’s my personality to run at a thousand kilometres an hour and want to do everything. But I ended up feeling extremely exhausted all the time and ran myself into the ground. Hello severe mastitis, a raging temperature and a trip to the hospital. So don’t think you need to do everything, because you don’t!
ASK FOR HELP
This brings me to my next step - ask for help. Don’t be afraid to ask your family for support, your friends to bring over frozen meals, and your partner to do the night shift, again. Being a mum and a creative is full on, so ask for help. Always.
TAKE A BREAK
Being a mum is one job, and being a creative is another job. And what I learned is that if I am continually trying to be both, I forget about myself and what makes me happy and feel creative. Take a break regularly so you remind yourself you are more than a mum and to give your creativity a boost.
DITCH THE MUM GUILT
Mum guilt…I’ve recently discovered it’s a legit thing. Because I work from home, there is no separation. Dusty is my main priority, and work is my outlet. When I have to work, Dusty can sometimes look seriously bored and unloved in his bouncer next to me, and it makes me feel really, really guilty. We are in a routine now, which is the one thing I recommend to new parents, and I am slowly figuring out when the best times are to do the work, and play with Dusty. So far so good - well, today at least!
GET AS MUCH SLEEP AS YOU CAN
Early on, Jason and I worked out that I am a sh*t person when I've had little to no sleep. I start to feel negative, I lash out and look like a zombie. Basically, when I am tired I am not doing anyone any favours - not myself, not Dusty and not Jason. In my experience, to be able to blend mum life and creative life, getting as much sleep as you can is key.
Words by YCS Director, Jaharn Giles